*Another disclaimer about my use of strong language*
Slut shaming is a perfect example of why I suffer from resting bitch face. For all of you that are not familiar, slut shaming is when a woman or girl is labeled as “sexually out-of-control” and socially ridiculed or punished for this identity that she was given. This is the one of the most sexist acts that I have ever seen. Why should a woman or girl be punished for the same reason a man or boy is praised? It is seen as perfectly acceptable for a man to have multiple partners and be sexually promiscuous, but if a woman does that same thing she is a “slut” or a “whore.”
This is exactly what is wrong with our society and our ass-backward gender norms. It is a woman’s choice what she does with her body and who she shares it with, and that is her business. People, women more specifically, are called sluts for just about any reason these days. If a girl’s shorts are too short, “slut.” If she hooks up with someone or refuses to hook up with someone, “slut.” You are pretty much damned if you do and damned if you don’t. As a woman/girl, if you have had sex before you are a slut or ho, but if you haven’t you’re a prude or a tease; we just can’t win. When men have sex for the first time the become more popular and are praised for it, but when women do they tend to become labeled as impure or tainted.
It makes absolutely no sense to me, why do we judge people based on what they have or have not done? It doesn’t effect us in any way; this double-standard that we have in our society for sex needs to go away. Movies like “Easy A” show this double standard and how it can destroy someones reputation even if they are not committing the acts that everyone is saying that they are. We need to stop teaching the future generations that it is okay to call each other these words and women need to also stop calling each other these names. If we call other women “sluts,” “whores,” and “skanks” then men think it is okay to call us them. The majority of women will at one point in their lives be called a slut and that it not okay because we cannot even avoid it. Slut shaming is farm more harmful than just name calling and people need to realize that.
Heterosexual women are expected to be “hot” or “sexy,” but not too sexy. Women have to walk the shaky and unpredictable bridge that is the imaginary line between what is just “sexy” enough and what is “slutty.” If a woman is too confident in her appearance or sexiness, then she risks being labeled as a slut and that is so stupid. We can’t even be confident in ourselves these days without men feeling threatened by us; we shouldn’t have to worry about stupid things that this. If I want to wear an outfit that I feel confident in and other people think it makes me look slutty then f**k em. I will not let myself be defined by a man, I am my own person and I can do what I want with my body.
I do not want to be defined by the amount of people I have or have not slept with, or by the way I dress. I also do not want to be defined by someone that is not me. Only I have the right to define who I am. What I do with my body is my choice, same with all other women. Our bodies are our business, so let’s all work together to end slut shaming for good.
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